Letter to my honey #4

It is almost three in the morning and I can't sleep. I have been really sick the last few days. I'm coughing and have a fever. I am so happy that the hunt is almost over. I miss you so much. I haven't done too much this week since I am under the weather. I talked to my nigh school best friend Michelle the other day for over an hour. It was great catching up with her. We are trying to arrange a visit for both of us to meet in Craig. I hope you can come too!

I don't have much to say right now. I am heading to bed and am going to watch musicals all night and day!

I LOVE YOU!! See you soon my lover!

25 things every woman needs to know

I found this article on another blog I follow so I thought I would repost it. To read the original go HERE. All credit goes to Hannah Brencher you can find her HERE

25 things every woman needs to know

1) Life is a steep, uphill battle but it’s fierce & it’s beautiful & you’ll be sad to see it go if you live it right.

2) New people won’t stop coming into your life and opportunities won’t stop knocking on the door but you need to have the space for them. In all you currently have– be them relationships or obligations– step back and ask yourself “why.” If you can find the answer, hold tighter. If the answer escapes you, it’s time to let something go.

3) You should resolve to be awesome for the rest of your life. Right now. Do it.

4) Leggings, no matter how much we wish, will never one day magically transform into pants. Wearing them with tops that don’t cover your bum is not cute. Please, please, please stock up on pants.

5) Goals are not a January 1st kind of thing. Set them weekly. Set them monthly. Set them so that you are moving forward and always trying to progress. Life can grow stagnant without them… beware.

6) Tuna and barbeque sauce are as unlikely a couple as Sandy and Danny from Grease. However, they go together. They go together like rama lama lama ke ding a de dinga a dong. Don’t gag at the computer, I promise I am not fooling you. Mix the two together with some brown rice and you’ve got a bomb.com lunch.

7) Confidence is a sexy thing. Guys dig it. Girls dig it. We all dig it.

8) I agree with Bruno Mars and, if I were a good singer, I’d serenade you alongside him in singing how I hope he buys you flowers… and holds your hands… and takes you to parties if you like to dance. You deserve that. Always. Don’t think you should have less than that. You are worthy beyond words, gal.

9) And maybe Bruno Mars should be president because he’s also right to say that you are amazing. Just the way you are. No frill. No big introductions. You’re unlike anyone else and you should lean into that every morning. Every evening. Every hour.

9.5) Knowing your states & geography is a really precious thing. As a recovering “I didn’t pay attention in Geography class and forgot my states one by one so that boys would think I was ditzy & cute, and it was, in fact, ditzy & cute until the day I made the mistake of asking everyone in Missouri how they liked living down south,” I can say firsthand that it’s really wonderful to know that Russia isn’t on top of the US and that Delaware is, in fact, a state. The moral of this bloated story: guys have never wanted us to be stupid. They actually like brain cells. It’s a wonder & a mystery but they really kind of, sort of, definitely like girls with a noggin. ALL HAIL THE LADIES WHO LIKE HTML CODING & UNDERSTAND MARXIST THEORY!! HOLLAAAA!!! WE WINNNN AFTER ALL THESE YEARSSSS!!

10) Your spirit will never benefit from shallow people. You gotz to cut the toxic out of your life, boo.

11) And if you make mean comments, and you talk about people behind their back without ever trying to love them or see where they are coming from, you MIGHT be the toxic one. Oof. I’m not trying to burn you, just trying to say that relationships are too valuable to muddy them up with what you perceive to be the shortcomings of someone else. Big girls do bigger things than that.

12) So yea, I’ll drive the point home: gossip is shallow and stupid. Hobbies are better. Social good is best 

13) Nude pumps. They’re good for the soul. They are a must-have in any serious closet. Buy a pair one day and I can promise your whole entire style statement will benefit from them.

14) Here’s the truth: you are going to waste a lot of hours focusing on who you are not, or who you want to secretly be. But you won’t ever wake up and actually be that person. You’ve got to embrace what you bring to the table. If you don’t like what that is, have the courage to change it.

15) The world does not revolve around us. Turns out that we are just little points of punctuation in a much bigger story glittered with periods & commas & dashes. How are you helping that story to be better? How are you being the best dang point of punctuation that you can be?

16) If you ever find yourself frying Oreos on the stove top (and being an absolute BOSS at it), do not, I REPEAT, do not take the simmering pot of grease straight from the stove and pour it directly into the sink. The thing will straight up explode… And grease will fly everywhere… And you will risk burning your pretty little face off… And then everyone will probably call you “Vat of Grease Face” or “Grease Lightning” (what is with all the Grease references, Hannah?!) for the rest of your life… And, if they do, you can refer them to this blog post and tell them to read point #11. But still, dump the grease outside and keep your face intact.

17) If you want to run a serious business, if you want people to take you seriously, then start your engine and sign out some library books. Business books are proof that God loves us. Lean In by Sheryl Sandbergwill make you a better leader. Seth Godin is the dude you wanted to take the prom all these years and never knew it until you cracked open his book “Tribes.”

18) No matter how tech savvy we get, there is a need to say things to a person’s face. Please, for the love of lovelier things, have the courage to call someone up and verbalize your thoughts or meet for a coffee.Breaking a heart is hard stuff, stopping a relationship is never fun, but there will never be anything as loud as this statement: You are worth my words. You are worth my presence. You are worth, and will always be worth, more than just letters on a screen and a broken heart jammed in the crooks of an overflowing inbox. Face to face connections are fading faster, please don’t let them get away…

19) First impressions are important. Really. That truth never changes. So refer to point #4. Really meditate on it.

20) No matter what kind of interview you are gearing up for, there are certain standards you should always hold yourself to: wearing something other than jeans, not talking out your phone during the interview, sending a handwritten note afterwards. An interview means you want something but it doesn’t mean they have to give it to you.

21) Regret is a real thing. It’s going to happen. It’s going to come clomp-clomp-clomping into your life at some point. Don’t hold onto things forever but learn from them and let the past go. The past will be a dictator if you let her.

22) You never want to be the COTS (chick on the side). Girls, GIRLS!!!! IF A GUY HAS A GIRLFRIEND AND HE IS STILL TRYING TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOU IN A “YOU ARE THE ONE THAT I WANT” WAY, DO NOT FALL FOR IT. HE SHOULD MAN UP AND ACTUALLY LET THE OTHER GIRL GO. IF HE DOES NOT THEN WALK AWAY. WALK AWAY. WALK AWAY. You are worth so much more than second string in relationships. And being a COTS is not an endearing title. Be the better lady and hop off his swag; you are breaking the heart of girl you don’t even know without ever really meaning to. (And truthfully: real men aren’t interested in finding another gal, they’re too wrapped up in loving the face off the one they already have.)

23) The women’s section of Old Navy and Target has failed us. If you ever really want to fully embrace to “oversize” look then just frolic over the men’s section. All those flannels you’ve been tugging at, wishing they would actually be “oversize,” are hanging out in the men’s section waiting to kiss your elbows with their flannelish lips. Roll up the sleeves and get going. And then wear them leggings having no shame at all!

24) Facebook is a tricky thing. This is an invitation to step back and ask yourself, should I really post that? In the days of diaries, we never had to worry about this. Now all that we say is a microphone so be very, very careful. Here’s a link to all the best quotes from Maya Angelou. The next time you feel like posting something really ugly that you are going to regret, take a stab at one of these instead:http://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/3503.Maya_Angelou

25) Darling, darling–the victim song is never going to fit you. It will never be good enough for your lungs. It will never be good enough for your time. You are stronger than you know and more graceful than you know. Don’t let the parts of you that want to be a victim live on any longer. You’ve got a voice… you’ve got a story… Do us all a favor and use it. Without any apologies. Without any stepping back. If ever you need a listener, come find me

Letter to my honey #3

Hey love,

Well we made it another day apart! Now that the weekend is over and I am back to work I am slightly less lonely and bored. I actually worked a longer day yesterday so by the time I got home I was so worn out I ate a bagel for dinner and went to bed.

I did my best to organize the bathroom mess. I don't think I did as good of a job as I could have but I did it. Today after work I am heading to Vanessa's to babysit the nieces and nephews. That should be fun yet stressful.

I also want to finish folding the rest of the laundry and hopefully do my nails. I had have some pretty painful issues with my back. It started the day before you left do you remember? Well it has not gotten better. I am going to look at getting a massage to see if it helps.

I hope you are well and not to sore from hiking up and down the mountains for the past 4 days. I hope you bring us home an elk. On that note, I really hope you take it somewhere to be processed or do it somewhere besides our home. The thought of cutting up a dead animal makes me want to vomit!

I love and miss you so much. I can't wait until you get home!

Love always,
Me

Letter to my Honey #2

Hello Lover,

I am still so very much missing you. I finally got my haircut for the first time in a long time. I can't wait to show you. I hope you like it.

How is hunting for Bambi's uncle elk going? I am so glad you are out having some male bonding time. I am so excited to see you. Hopefully you will bring home some meat!

I have been very bored so I had all these amazing plans for the house. I however did nothing but shop haha. That is so me. I will be working a full long day today although I was supposed to babysit the nieces and nephews after school but when I got to work I was asked to work late. Luckily I called your mom and she was able to go and cover for me. I will watch them tomorrow after work.

For tonight I am going to work on the bathroom organizing. What a huge job. I hope you will be happy with the progress. Oh and guess what???!!! I DID THE DISHES. yes me the one who would rather scrub toilets with a toothbrush than do dishes.

You have been gone for 3.5 days so only a week to go! I love you and miss you!

-Me

Letters to my honey while he is away hunting

My dear Phil,

I am very bummed you are away. I know you like your hunting and guy time but boy do I miss you!! Yesterday was day 1. I worked then went to get me some groceries for this week. I bought lots of things you don't like. Today I went and got my wedding ring redesigned and am so excited for you to see what I did. I used one of my mom's rings and added it to mine so she will always be with me. I also finally found the boots I was looking for and get this..... They were super on sale so I bought 4 pairs and only spent 15.00 what a steal!!

Rocky is acting very strange with you gone. You know how he ALWAYS follows me around when you are gone? Well its so much worse. I can't even go into the bathroom to brush my teeth without him whimpering and following me. He misses you too. Tonight I am going to make a yummy salad and sit down to wath some cheesy made for tv movies or a musical! I will write to you again!

I love you more than anything in the world. I can't wait to see you and I hope you all get the elk you are hunting! Until next time

Love always and forever,
Your very lonely wife :)

Be inspired to do great things

If you really look and listen to these words you can find the strength you need to succeed.

You could be the greatest
You can be the best
You can be the king kong banging on your chest

You could beat the world
You could beat the war
You could talk to God, go banging on his door

You can throw your hands up
You can be the clock
You can move a mountain
You can break rocks
You can be a master
Don't wait for luck
Dedicate yourself and you can find yourself

Standing in the hall of fame
And the world's gonna know your name
Cause you burn with the brightest flame
And the world's gonna know your name
And you'll be on the walls of the hall of fame

You could go the distance
You could run the mile
You could walk straight through hell with a smile

You could be the hero
You could get the gold
Breaking all the records that thought never could be broke

Do it for your people
Do it for your pride
Never gonna know if you never even try

Do it for your country
Do it for name
Cause there's gonna be a day

When your, standing in the hall of fame
And the world's gonna know your name
Cause you burn with the brightest flame
And the world's gonna know your name
And you'll be on the walls of the hall of fame

Be a champion, Be a champion, Be a champion, Be a champion

On the walls of the hall of fame

Be students
Be teachers
Be politicians
Be preachers

Be believers
Be leaders
Be astronauts
Be champions
Be true seekers

Be students
Be teachers
Be politicians
Be preachers

Be believers
Be leaders
Be astronauts
Be champions

Standing in the hall of fame
And the world's gonna know your name
Cause you burn with the brightest flame
And the world's gonna know your name
And you'll be on the walls of the hall of fame

(You can be a champion)
You could be the greatest
(You can be a champion)
You can be the best
(You can be a champion)
You can be the king kong banging on your chest


(You can be a champion)
You could beat the world
(You can be a champion)
You could beat the war
(You can be a champion)
You could talk to God, go banging on his door

(You can be a champion)
You can throw your hands up
(You can be a champion)
You can be the clock
(You can be a champion)
You can move a mountain
(You can be a champion)
You can break rocks

(You can be a champion)
You can be a master
(You can be a champion)
Don't wait for luck
(You can be a champion)
Dedicate yourself and you can find yourself
(You can be a champion)

Standing in the hall of fame

By The Script
"The hall of fame"

Mom's obituary

 Roberta Grove 1951 - 2013

Roberta Lee “Bobbi” (Martinez) Grove went home to her heavenly father on March 4, 2013, at her home in Craig.
Bobbi was born July 26, 1951, in Colorado Springs to Antonio and Ersie (Lucero) Martinez. She grew up in Colorado Springs with two brothers and four sisters. She was working as a taxi driver when she met Mark Grove. They married on Dec. 2, 1978, in Colorado Springs and were blessed with two beautiful daughters, Devin and Derin.
When her girls were young, Bobbi was their Girl Scouts leader. She loved being a stay-at-home mom, and when they were older, she worked at the Best Western as a desk clerk. Bobbi loved to read. When the Amazon Kindle came out, she was thrilled (it was a book that was easy to hold and lightweight). Making crafts was great, too, and she was good at it. She made beautiful jewelry but had a hard time using the beads, because once they were used, they were gone. She especially loved working on her family history.
Bobbi loved her grandsons. The joy, laughter, fun and energy they brought into her life brought a smile to her face every time she thought of them. Each step they took, no matter how small, made her so proud. She loved to tell stories about them but worried that she talked about them too much.
A day for friendship, catching up and laughter with a few tears, hanging out with the “Yard Sale Mafia,” the name she gave her friends as they went looking for treasures and sometimes just having lunch. She was an awesome friend.
In 35 years of marriage, Bobbi and Mark had many adventures: England, Paris and Hawaii, exploring new places with lots of road trips. She was a great wife, wonderful mother and beloved “Mia.”
Bobbi is survived by her husband of 35 years, Mark Grove; daughters Devin (Michael) Jurgensen, of Craig, Derin (Phil) Harvey and Joey, of Santaquin, Utah; brothers Tony Martinez, of Lafayette, Ind., Leonard (Jan) Martinez, of Denver; sisters Rose (Brian) Salladay, of Callahan, Judy (Jerry) Kirchner, of Colorado Springs, Cathy (Gary) Garrison, of Colorado Springs, and Patricia Bynum, of Michigan; cousin Francis Martinez, of Denver; five grandsons, Conner, Ethan and Mark Jurgensen, of Craig, Mikey Jurgensen, of Loveland, and Holden Grove, of Colorado Springs; many nieces and nephews; and best friends Janice Hunsaker, Janice Moore, Terry Welch and Donalene Griffin — “The Yard Sale Mafia.”
A memorial service for Roberta Lee “Bobbi” (Martinez) Grove was March 9, 2013, at Journey at First Baptist church, 1150 W. Ninth St. in Craig.
Cremation has taken place, with interment at a later date.

As of now

I have been very absent from the blogging world. So much has happened in the last few months. I would love to play catch up but that is near impossible. Let me just summarize the past :)

The main big thing has been us going from a family of just Phil and I to a family of 3. Yes we are now first time parents to an 11 year old boy. He is actually my cousins' child. Things happened and he needed a new home. We began the process of getting him about August-ish 2011. Well a year and a half later he joined us on November 14, 2012. Holy big challenge and change for us. This is such an awesome thing. We love being parents. We have major struggles with him but for the majority of the time he is a really sweet, kind boy! We will call him "J" for now on here at least until the adoption is finalized.

I wanted to shoot out a quick update. On another note my Mother passed away last Monday. I will post about her very soon. Stay tuned.